by Mistress Didi*
THE most important thing a Domme can do is to develop Herself – which means to develop Her own Self-Control (starting with avoiding being needy and focus on being choosey) because the truth about Control is there is only Self-Control = what you will and will not allow.
To ensure that You communicate clearly and present Yourself from a place of authority — which is something the new Domina can often have difficulty with — remember:
1) Please consider VERY carefully how you communicate. Choose your words carefully and monitor your tone. You don’t want to come across as desperate because that attracts trolls and worse;
2) Be careful of whom you trust. Most of these jokers talk a good game – especially when they believe that You don’t know any better. So, make them prove worthy of Your attention. This practice weeds out the fakers-takers-shakers-noise-makers; and
3) Please read Safety Tips For Dommes.
These steps will offer You comfort and build Your confidence so that it is easier to pay attention to what is actually being said and offered, rather than getting carried away in the notion of “having submissives.”
A Gift from The Mistress Didi*
I conduct Mentoring and Training classes and workshops in person and via webcam. I’ve also created The Domina101™ Collective as an opportunity for Female Dominants to learn and share Life Knowledge, techniques, and general-how-to information from and with Quality Fetishists.
The following is a Domina101™ Mentoring Program Preparation Guide to assist You in becoming clear on Your goals so that You may clearly communicate them.